We both have a weird love/hate relationship with the registry.
It wasn’t a bad thing. I (and later, we) were pretty flattered that the thing people thought we needed most was a crock pot (and trust me, we do/did need a replacement for lil’ sparky.) We’re both excited that we can cook things for, say, a dinner + leftovers, or meatballs for a baby shower in something we have.
We’re both a little weirded out by the “this is what we want”aspect. I think we’d both be most comfortable with the old-fashioned “register for a pattern, not for specific things” days, or almost no registry at all (except for the communication aspect.)
So, we’ve both come to view the registry as a suggestion box, if youse guys feel the need to get us a something. Either it’s “this is the pattern we like, in dishes/silverware/etc we think will last a long time”, or, “this is a suggestion of what we like and know we’d use, if you find something better/cheaper/faster elsewhere, that’s fine with us.” We trust your judgement of what you think we might need, if you think we need something.